SO…this post isn’t really about fashion but it is most definitely about being fabulous! I got up this morning and got to thinking about what exactly being fabulous entails. Of course I thought of the fashion aspect first but then my mind also wandered. Being Fabulous isn’t just about looking great. To truly BE fabulous you should also have tact, kindness, gentleness, compassion and good manners…scratch that…GREAT manners. You know I’ve been dating the love of my life for going on 6 months now and I ALWAYS thank him for buying my meals and whatever the entertainment of the night might be, if it’s a trip to the theater or a simple movie rental from Blockbuster. There just really are no excuses for bad manners…not if you’re going to be Fabulous! I mean lets just start with basics…if you aren’t saying please and thank you…then get to using those words. A lot of the manner thing is stuff that you would think would be common sense but I’m telling you I have met a ton of people that are clueless. You wouldn’t believe how many times I have seen women come out of the bathroom stall and go straight out the door… HELLO!!!! WASH YOUR HANDS! That’s just gross! It is certainly not something a Fabulous person would do! Also, thanking your waiter/waitress for their service. Everytime they come to fill up my drink I always thank them. It’s just the right thing to do. Just because they are serving you doesn’t mean they are your slave. You know the old saying “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar”…well I completely believe that…but I think that the motivation can be wrong sometimes. If you aren’t being nice (the honey part) to that person because you feel like it or because you genuinely want to, then you are just being a fake. Now I understand that there are some circumstances that you have to MAKE yourself be nice to someone…I get that…and that’s fine. But if you find yourself more times than not, being nice to someone just to get something…you need to get a handle on it and humble yourself. I heard this story once of these two Divas that were going to be performing on the same night in the same venue…and one of them wrote in her contract that the building would have to put in new duct work and vents and air units on her side of the building because she didn’t want to breathe in the same air as the other Diva. All I could think when I heard that story was…what a jerk! I also heard of this male rapper who only wanted green skittles so the people had to go through all these skittle bags to pick out the green ones. How stupid is that? It’s ridiculous and it’s NOT anywhere close to Fabulous! Just because you are Fabulous doesn’t mean that everyone is your slave, and it doesn’t mean that you get your way all the time. That’s NOT what being fabulous is about. There is a great book that Kate Spade put out a couple of years ago called MANNERS. I think everyone should have this book. It’s Fabulous. It gives great advice…some of it is things you wouldn’t have even thought about before. So just consider these things. REMEMBER…BE FABULOUS!!!
Fabulous Fashion Advice: Get some manners! June 21, 2008